Showing posts with label Memory. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Memory. Show all posts

Friday, June 12, 2020

We're Pet People

I listed five pets that brought me joy over the years in my positivity journal, including our most recent pet - Lily, a tan chihuahua dog, who died in April during coronavirus lockdown. When I first joined Find-a-grave, occasionally I ran into pet memorials (yes, Find-a-grave allows them) and at the time, I thought it silly to have them on there, but I've changed my mind since then as making a memorial for Lily brought me some measure of comfort after she passed. 

She joined our family in 2009 after a trip to Tennessee to visit family for Thanksgiving and we brought her home with us. Since she was a rescue dog, her guesstimated age was about 10 months old at that time. She was very afraid of the car and rode on my shoulder the whole way home in panic mode, but since that time, she loved to go riding as her daddy spoiled her by buying a treat (hotdog) for her at Quik-trip when he stopped to buy gas and a coke. She also went with us on many weekender vacation trips and was a good rider. 

I've been spring cleaning and finding things of Lily's. Some I've packed away, in case we decide to add a new pet to our household in the future, but holding them in my hands makes me miss her. She balanced out the females to the males in our home and we had her for ten years. As her Find-a-grave memorial states, I taught her many things for she was a smart dog and good company. I mentioned her in this article about genealogy code here

Today, I remembered that I had some documents concerning her shots, etc. packed away in a filing cabinet. So I dug them out and thought that they might be good documents to prove our residence at the time as they have our address written on them.  However, since this is a sample, I've taken care to remove our address from the below record for this article. 



Here's a list of other pets that I remember. I have a few more records in my filing cabinet for other pets like Ami, Baby, and Hunter. I remember a few more critters that our family kept as pets, but will have to dig for their names to add to this list. 


  1. Ami (D. Rush; female Bichon Frise dog)
  2. Baby Cakes (D. Rush;  male bicolor cat)
  3. Blackie (J. Ullom's male farm dog; they thought he was a mutt, but he looked like a black Irish Setter)
  4. Bumbles (S. Yoder; cat)
  5. Candy (J. Ullom's rat terrier)
  6. Darby (P. Eubank; male dog)
  7. Darcy (D. Rush; male Sheltie dog)
  8. "Don't remember name" pets (finches, fish, gerbils, hamsters, a hermit crab, a horned toad, lizards, turtles)
  9. Diamond (I.L. Rush; horse) 
  10. Freckles (N. Rush's male Brittany Spaniel dog)
  11.  Ginger (N. O'Neal; female Lhasa Apso dog)
  12. Gracie (M. Rush; Great Danes)
  13.  Hunter (D. Rush; Pomeranian)
  14. King (M. Rush; Great Dane)
  15. Lily (D. Rush; chihuahua)
  16. Misty (D. Rush; pet rabbit) 
  17. Nancy (J. Ullom; Shetland pony)
  18. Nellie (I.L. Rush; horse)
  19. Nova (S. Yoder; cat)
  20.  Perry (D. Rush; parakeet)
  21.  Pretty Boy (N. O'Neal; canary)
  22.  Rusty (R. O'Neal; Irish setter)
  23.  Sam (N. O'Neal; Beagle dog)
  24. Shirley (I.L. Rush; horse)
  25. Snowflake (I.L. Rush; horse)
  26. Song (N. O'Neal; female Siamese cat)
  27. Sugar (I.L. Rush; horse)
  28. Sugar (R. Rush; female miniature poodle)
  29. Tippy (I.L. Rush; dog)
  30. Violet (S. Yoder; cat)



Sunday, June 30, 2019

A Bull Story

We traveled "down home" recently where my husband's ancestors have resided for the past 150 years. During our traveling to and fro, I was thinking of when his grandparents were alive and living in the tenant farm house on the land they inherited when Grandpa's former landlord and lady passed. We drove to it and stopped and walked around the property for a moment to stretch legs and let the dog race around, having a sniffing good time while we were there.

When my hubbin and I were newly married, we decided we needed a weekender "down home" to visit his grandparents. In those days, his extended family circle -- dad, mother, brothers and sisters, paternal uncles and aunts and some of their descendants visited quite often, at least once a month, so it wasn't unusual to find them all down and crowded into grandma and grandpa's two story white farm house. It was just a matter of putting dibs on a bed so we'd have a place to sleep. 

While we were there, we decided to spend an romantic afternoon shopping in the capital city some 30 miles away. The weatherman had predicted snow which wasn't to begin until later that evening, so not to be deterred, we left early in the day, going down the back roads, across a cement low water bridge with a trickle of water running across it from the creek, and through an almost vanished village to the highway. We didn't leave the city until the white flakes began drifting down and then suddenly anxious, my husband decided we better get back to his grandpa's. 

As we turned off the highway, going down the same back roads we had traveled earlier in the day and over the crest of the last steep hill sloping down towards the creek, we nearly had a head-on with a huge bull jogging towards us. Now in the country, it's not unusual to find cattle on the roads; you carefully drive around them and go on, then report it to the farmers round and let them go pick up their errant animal. Because this was on a somewhat slippery gravel slope, we skidded down towards him, intent on going round him, but he was having none of it. He blocked us at every turn of the wheel. Only when we came to a complete stop, did he run around our car and disappear up the hill behind us. It was getting dusky gray by that time and we slowly rolled down to cross the creek. I sincerely believe that bull was sent to protect us, because when we arrived at where the bridge had been, the trickle had become a five foot deep raging river. The cement could not even be seen under all that dark churning, foaming water, only the two roads leading out of it on either side. We could have easily have been swept away in our little chevette had we hit that water. 

It took us two hours to turn our small car around and creep back up the icy hill. The bull was nowhere to be seen when we finally made it back to the top. We expected to see, but did not find any broken down fence along that stretch of road on either side.

Fortunately, there was a blacktop further down the highway once we got back to it that we were able to take to go round to his grandparents from the other side. They were really worried about us and scolded us for not stopping to call them to let them know we were leaving the city. This was in the days before mobile phones and we were thoughtless. I'm just thankful we made it back to the safe arms of the family home and hadn't taken a cold dip that day! Brrr! I thank the Lord for his goodness and protection!

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Treasured Memories

Jesus, sing along with me, "Precious Memories, how they linger . . ."

Jesus, do you remember where you slept when you were a boy and later as a man? Can you picture it in your mind, remember all the details of that place?  The sights, the sounds, the smells, the feel of your blankets and lumps where you lay? 

I went to my grandmother's last night as I lay in my bed at home, nestled under a quilt grandma Maurine made for my high school graduation.
My inner eye and I roamed around in my grandmother's basement where we slept as kids during our summer break from school (we sometimes stayed a month during our three month break) and during our Christmas break (two weeks) and then upstairs in her second bedroom when I was sixteen. Do you remember that Jesus? I felt so grown up as I was allowed to visit my grandparents by myself and to travel to Dodge City, Kansas by train where they picked me up. Thank you for being with me, protecting me along the way. My mother never said anything, but I'm sure she was anxious until I made it there and they assured her I was okay when we called her from their house. I was excited and homesick all at the same time.
I miss grandma and Papa. Jesus, do you remember when I called him that? He was Papa until I think I was in high school and felt I was too old for such a childish name for him. I miss being able to visit them, but last night, I pushed past my emotions and looked around the rooms in my memory while I lay snugly under my quilt.
Will you come along with me as I remember grandma's basement? It was a wide open space, except for where the stairs came down into the third end of the room.  Grandma had grandpa build a little storage room under the stairs and shelves on the left side of the stair wall for her pretties. She would rotate them as she got tired of looking at them or when the seasons or holidays changed. On the right side of the stairs there were the white metal cupboards they removed from the kitchen in the old house before it was sold and moved into town.

Grandma told me they began housekeeping in a 2-room house, which was still standing the last time I was down at the farm, then they purchased a two story house in Elkhart, Kansas and moved it to their farm in the 1940s. On the plains of the Oklahoma panhandle and southwestern Kansas where wood for building was scarce, my mom said it was a common practice to remove whole buildings to a new site. After 20 years of living in that house, Grandpa decided to have a 2-bedroom ranch house built over a basement in 1962-63, thinking it would be easier for Grandma to keep house. 

Do you remember Jesus, that Grandma loved that old house as much I did? I don't know why she loved it, but I did because it was full of interesting nooks and crannies. It had a lot of character. 

As I lay in bed, I swept my mind's eye around the room, feeling cozy and loved under my quilt. Beside me a few feet away, was Grandpa's office desk and chair. We kids loved that chair, do you remember why Jesus? We loved to sit in that wooden arts and crafts chair and spin each other just for the fun of it until mom would yell down the stairs and chase us out-of-doors to play. On the left side of Grandpa's desk was a bookcase where he kept his farm books mostly. After awhile, Grandpa brought home a huge metal safe to keep their photos and accounting books in. It was on the wall on the right side of the desk.

Remember the old living room furniture Grandma brought over from the old house – her scratchy old beige sofa, a braided area rug, an old blanket trunk, an old wooden kitchen chair with the black vinyl covered seat that wasn't fastened down and a end table arranged in a circle? In the corner, sat her old round oak dining room table. I loved that hefty pedestal table on huge claw feet and rollers as it could be pushed out from the wall a little if needed so all of us kids could crowd around (there was four of us and usually two or more cousins) to play games on it. Often times, when it was rainy or a blizzard blew in, we would play "house" down there. It was cool down there in the summer and warm in the winter. 

Then there was the three double iron beds that we each slept in. One was mom's squeaky bed from when she was a girl. My sisters usually claimed that one, but my brother refused to sleep with me after he said I kicked him out of bed several times in a row in my sleep. Jesus, knowing my brother, he was probably being onery to me and I kicked him out in self-defense, but since I was asleep, I don't remember it. Jesus, did you have any pesky little brothers? 

I remember the way the basement smelled, dusty. None of the basement walls or the floor were painted or sealed, so when we left, Grandma would cover the beds with plastic sheeting because that fine Oklahoma dirt would sift in through the basement windows, two on each wall whenever a storm would stir up.

Jesus, I felt so grown up as I lay in the upstairs bed in between the crisp white sheets where my parents usually slept when we came down during the Christmas holidays. Dad would take his two-week vacation time then and we would drive to our grandparents, usually during the night so that we kids slept on the way down in the back of the station wagon that mom and dad made up into a bed. Two at the top of the mattress and two at the bottom, with our legs and stocking feet meeting somewhere in the middle under the quilt. Sometimes I would just lay there, looking up at your beautiful night sky as the car rolled down the highway (eight hours one way). The sky didn't change much, but lower down, the telephone poles would flash by, one after the other. Thank you, Jesus, for that conjunction of Mars and Jupiter. There was much speculation that this was the star the wise men saw that year. Thank you for that precious memory.

Jesus, remember that new oak bedroom set that Grandma purchased in town when she moved into the new house for the second bedroom? The double bed was stationed under an aluminum drapery-framed window. Instead of opening from the bottom as our windows at home did, these slid open from the side. They were a wonder. My grandparents had air-conditioning, but sometimes they would shut it off during the night and open the windows to let in the fresh night-time breezes through the screen. Their air was dry, not humid like where we lived. The windows were shut before the heat of the day began. 

The walls were painted white and the trim around the windows and doors were stained oak to match the bedroom furniture. Opposite the bed on the right side, was another window that looked toward the back of the house where the cement patio was. I always wanted a covered concrete patio like theirs. Their back door was constantly in use, unlike the formal front door.  Thank you, Jesus, for providing a home for my family with a small covered concrete porch.

Across the room, at the end of the bed, was the clothes closet and the exit door to the hallway. There was a beige carpet on the floor that led out to the hallway. And, facing me, as I curled up in the bed, was the oak bureau with mirror. As a good hostess, grandma kept two drawers empty so visitors would have some place to stash their stuff and a closet full of hangers. I can remember waking up at the crack of dawn and watching the sun come up, sometimes falling back to sleep until I heard my grandparents stirring in their bedroom. Once, grandpa, laughing, came to shake me awake. I guess I was talking in my sleep about horses! Jesus, the things I did in my sleep! I was rather embarrassed! LOL! Jesus, did you do anything funny in your sleep?

Jesus, I want to tell you  thank you for allowing me to have a relationship with my grandparents. Many of my friend's grandparents lived too far away or some had died before they were born, so they didn't know what they were missing. Grandma Maurine and I were close like this (holding two fingers up side by side); she was my best bud and a kindred spirit. All through my growing up years we corresponded by letter throughout the year.

Do you remember, Jesus, when my grandparents asked you to come into their hearts, to wash them whiter than snow? I bet your angels were rejoicing in heaven the day they did. 

Grandma Maurine met Papa at a camp-meeting in Topeka, KS. I don't recall how my paternal grandmother met my grandfather, but they were married in a pastor's home before Sunday School began. I expect that's why I'm a believer today, because they influenced my parents and thus me to follow Christ.

Remember Timothy, Jesus? He had a godly grandmother too. It says so in 2 Timothy 1:5 --

"I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also."

Paul told him to guard the good deposit, all the good reading from the scriptures he received from his grandmother and his mother, from infancy up, and Paul's discipleship in evangelism.

I thank you Jesus, for the treasured memories of my grandparents. See you in heaven, Grandma Maurine and Papa John. Until then. . .

More to Read:
Findagrave, # 15079870 and 15079845

Monday, June 29, 2015

My Dad's Birthday

Today would have been my dad's 88th birthday had he lived this long! He was a handy man to have around as he was an air-conditioning and heating serviceman. He also knew about refrigeration and motors and electricity. It would irritate my mother to no end when he would take a small greasy engine apart and put it back together on our kitchen table. I took his talents for granted until he passed away several years ago, four days before my parent's anniversary, of a sudden heart attack. 

His funeral service verse was,
Then I heard a voice from heaven say, "Write:
Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on."
"Yes," says the Spirit, "they will rest from their labor,
for their deeds will follow them."
~ Revelation 14: 13,
because I made a note of it in my Bible. 

A girlfriend found this bazaar poem for work gloves somewhere and sent it to me when I was a preschool Sunday School teacher.  I had to rework it a bit so that my class could give a gift of gloves to their daddies for Father's Day; however today I'm posting this in memory of my dad!

Dad's Gloves Craft.

Supplies needed:
a computer generated copy of the poem
1 pair of men's brown jersey work gloves per child (I saw some at a salvage store for 50 cents a pair here; sometimes you can purchase them in a bundle; my Dad's favorite thing to do was to buy in bulk! *grin*)
1 brown paper lunch bag per child
a piece of brown twine, abt. 8 inches long or so
appropriate tool rubber stamps and dark brown or black dye ink pad
or black and white printed clip-art 
glue or paste, hole punch, & pinking sheers

Instructions:
Stamp tool images all over the front of the bag with the ink or color in the clip-art, cut out and glue to bag.  Trim around the pre-printed poem with pinking sheers, and paste it to the front of the bag. Then place the gloves in the bag, fold the top over a couple of times, and punch two holes in the middle about an inch apart. Thread the jute through and tie into a bow. Dad's gift is finished! 


(Note about poem: "I", in the personal sense, was written as their Sunday School teacher, but it can changed to the corporate "we", as in siblings shopping together. Use as needed.)



Father's Gloves
Author Unknown.



 I went shopping store to store
For one gift that fits all,
Some were too tall, some too wide,
But many were just too small.


 The mystery was solved when I saw
The perfect gift for every male,
It’s just the right size for their dads
And it even was on sale!
  
It fits the hands that mow the grass
And takes the garbage out.
It fits when dads are pumping gas
Or moving things about.

 It fits for this and fits for that,
And on and on you see.
I’m sure you might have a chore or two,
Or maybe even three.

 So free your hands of cuts and scrapes, dad,
On all the jobs you do.
As you slide each hand in a glove;
remember the love they have for you.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DAD!

Friday, March 20, 2015

Keepers of Personal History

I recall a recent discussion between a cousin and myself. At the time, he was in the process of moving. Perhaps he shouldn't have mentioned he was throwing out some old posters of his past concerts (he's a gospel singer), because I just had to tell him that he ought to be saving some personal history. He came back and said he didn't want to be a called a hoarder. I was truly surprised at him, because he's been very interested in everything I've been discovering so far on our mutual ancestor. And just where did he think I was getting this information? I bet he didn't put two and two together. *smile* He would be compiling his own personal history for his descendants and I know he has at least two.
Genealogists, historians, and librarians consider journals, photo albums and scrapbooks as treasure troves of information, because so few people keep them. If it weren't for the keepers and savers, we wouldn't have materials to research from. Thanks to a certain cable television show, which I've heard this cousin mention from time to time, people are being led to believe that collecting of any sort is a shameful thing and it makes them fearful of being labeled a misfit of society, not realizing that one poster in a scrapbook does not a hoarder make. This is yellow journalism at its worst -- ridiculing the mentally ill who truly cannot help themselves. Hence the consequences of a throw-a-way society who are constantly bombarded with messages to buy, buy, buy. At one time, thriftiness was considered a virtue.
And while I'm on the subject, I have been urging my fellow paper artists not to recycle/upcycle old ledgers, handwritten letters and ephemera to use in their artwork. In these days of easy photocopying/scanning and printing, making a copy and donating their flea-market finds to their local genealogy/historical society makes perfect sense to me. If it hadn't been for my thrifty great-grandmother and hence my grandmother, I wouldn't have had Hannah's wonderful letters to scan and transcribe like this one:
Dec 18, '29
Dear Tacy, So sorry to hear Laura had the small-pox and you had to be vaccinated. Hope she did not have it very hard and that she is getting along all right.
Am sending a check for $3.00 to you to use wherever you most need it.
Ronald wrote me about Laura. Hope this doesn't put her back in her studies at school.
It turned cold last night and we are in a snow blizzard now. We are promised zero weather soon.
Mildred had a baby girl born to her and Clarence Dec. 10th. Both Mildred and baby are doing well.
Love to all, Hannah

Here's gold! First of all, this letter tells me that Laura had small-pox when she was old enough to attend school. These days when small-pox has mostly been eliminated by immunizations, it's hard to believe that a family member would have this terrible disease in the twentieth century. Laura lived through it and not only did she live through it, but she lived to a ripe old age scar-free. That was a blessing! Not many people did. My encyclopedia says it was the most contagious air-borne disease and was usually considered a death sentence when people were diagnosed with it. The current ebola epidemic in Africa should serve as an example. People had to be isolated in quarantine to try to stop the spread of it and when you had precious little to begin with, burning all the personal possessions of a sick person, because back then one didn't have anti-bacterial cleaners to sterilize the sick person's room with as we do today, was heart-breaking as well. Young people should realize that the risks that come with vaccinations are a lot less than should their children get the real disease. I've seen many young children's tombstones cemetery walking that has made me realize how heart-breaking it must have been to lose their precious heirs to disease outbreaks.


Second, pooled information from other genealogists, may indicate to county historians, who also in the region may have died from smallpox in 1929.

Third, this letter tells me that Hannah was a compassionate woman and knew their need. It also tells me that she lived somewhere above the equator by the weather she was experiencing in December of 1929. And it tells me that she had been communicating with family members, about the birth of a baby girl (her niece). She names names! And last, but not least, we have a sample of her handwriting!
Since I've decoded a few clues from this letter about our family from this single sheet of paper, I can now apply that to a family genealogy chart. For the clueless, genealogy is like a scavenger hunt and a jig-saw puzzle all rolled together. You have to hunt for primary documents (ie. like this letter), then decode the clues from the documents (ie. see above), and fit the clues together to reassemble your ancestor's lives. (Note: And be sure to record where you obtained your clues if you wish to be taken seriously. It has saved my bacon more than once!)


More to Read:
Another of Hannah's Letters

Written by Dolores J. Rush, Updated on 3/23/2020. 

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

December Holiday Traditions

In a week, a niece will be marrying and I wonder what Christmas holiday traditions she will carry on and make new with her fiancé. I know one of her mother's (my sister) traditions was to purchase dated Christmas ornaments at every place they traveled to on vacation.'
When David and I married, we made the mistake of not talking about how we wanted to celebrate the holidays with each other and our parents. David just assumed that I would go along with his family's traditions and his toe tripped over a speed bump when he discovered his bride had some wishes of her own in addition to both our parents expecting us to celebrate the holidays with them that first Christmas. Oops!

One thing common to both of us was that we had celebrated Christmas together with our extended families -- grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. We decided that we wanted to continue that tradition, however, deciding who got first dibs without ruffling feathers became a major struggle as both of our parents lived in the same metro area and our grandparents lived out of town in opposite directions. A few years ago, I read of a couple of capital ideas I wish we could have implemented in the beginning of our journey together as man and wife -- alternate holidays every month on an annual basis (I'd have to write it in on my calendar so I wouldn't forget) or make one holiday such as Thanksgiving a paternal holiday always and Christmas a maternal one or visa versa. 

My family stayed home for most of the holidays during the year and celebrated them together, along with school parties. We were only able to visit my grandparents in southwestern Kansas and the panhandle of Oklahoma two times a year as they lived an 8-10 hour drive away. First my parents and siblings would open gifts at home, around my brother's birthday on the 21st, then drive to the Kansas grandparents, spending several days there and then going on to the Oklahoma grandparents before returning home. We had three Christmas' in one!
Some of my favorite memories from those times are -- looking up and seeing the "great star" (Jupiter and another planet's conjunction) in the sky as from a mattress in my folk's station wagon (mom and dad almost always made up a bed for us four kids so we could sleep while they drove all night); getting out of school because of a blizzard that roared through Oklahoma; playing with our cousins; attending church with our grandparents and seeing old friends; Christmas dinner; watching for familiar towns along the way down and the mounting excitement of being almost there and the alternate -- the growing homesickness as we pass those same towns coming back and the longing to be home; and watching my grandmother's eyes mist with tears as they waved goodbye to us. My grandparents have all graduated to heaven and as I write this, I miss them very much and know I won't be able to celebrate holidays with them again until I meet them in the sky. 

David's immediate family spent the night at his paternal grandparent's home and woke up at dawn on Christmas morning to open gifts. Then in the afternoon, they would all pile in the car to go visit his mother's parents. He said his favorite memory was hanging out with all his cousins. And let me tell you, he has quite a few in Cole and Miller Counties, MO. 
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Some of our blended Christmas traditions came when we had our son. I found a recipe for a Christmas cottage in the newspaper and we'd get together, either with his cousins or his homeschool friends and make them from pop-tarts, frosting, and Christmas candies. It's very much like a gingerbread house.
We also had a birthday party for Jesus with cake and ice cream after my aunt gave our son a book about celebrating Jesus' birthday with a party. We made Christmas ornaments together and exchanged them with friends' homemade ones. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas we drove around to see the lights and generally, we'd wait until after Thanksgiving, usually on my birthday to decorate the house for Christmas. We also collected one or two Christmas books or videos a year and sit and read or watch them together before Christmas day. And we still love to play games and put puzzles together with our friends and family  Christmas evening! 

At my Kansas grandparents we would open gifts after Christmas dinner at noon and only after all the dishes were done and she read the Christmas story from her Bible. It seemed like it took forever before we actually got to open the gifts, but imagine our son's excitement when he was allowed as a first time reader to read his shortened version of the Christmas story at his Grandma's house! After all, Jesus is the reason for this season! 

As preschool Sunday School teachers, David and I have participated in our home church's children's pageant -- me helping with costumes and David/stage and props. In previous years, we participated in a Living Nativity (next time you see David ask him how cold it gets without long handles under a costume and about the braying donkey) and choir cantatas. This year we're reading a new devotional book called "Anticipate: An Advent Experience" by Paul Sheneman and published by Beacon Hill Press. I'm decorating paper tags based on this book's Jesse Tree symbols called "24 tags of Christmas" to hang on my Christmas tree. This would be a good book to have for your own family tradition of celebrating Advent preceding Christmas. A Jesse Tree is a version of an advent calendar. 

Hey Family, I would love it if you would add your favorite Christmas memories to the comment section below. Thanks!

Written by Dolores J. Rush. 

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Poke and Grits


I recall a recent conversation with a desk librarian at the library we visit quite frequently. She asked me if I had ever heard of the phrase “poke and grits?” I wasn’t sure what she was referring to, so asked her where she had heard this term. She said her mother always told anyone who asked what they were having for supper that they were having “poke and grits.” As a young girl she was curious to know where the expression came from so she asked her mother about it and her mother said it was her mother's expression. So the next time her grandmother came to visit, her grandma told her,  “poke your feet under the table and grit your teeth,” meaning “get ready to eat.”

I don’t recall that my mother ever saying this to us, but I do remember her telling us to wash up right before she brought the food to the table.

In David’s family, the saying was "come to the table before the food gets cold,” which sometimes meant wild greens –young poke sprouts, lambs quarters and burdock, fried morel mushrooms (YUM! 😋), fried wild meats like squirrel, rabbit, fish, frog legs, turkey, eel, coon or tame meat and vegetables. Often there was wild grape or elderberry jelly to spread on Grandma Marie’s homemade lightbread and sometimes wild blueberry pie or custard pie to eat. And like us, they didn't eat grits except as a hot breakfast cereal.

I asked my mother after we were married, why our family never ate wild things and she relayed a story about how after the first winter after her grandparents moved to Oklahoma, they were starving for fresh greens in the spring and gathered a big bunch up, cooked them and about poisoned all of themselves to death, not knowing the proper plants to pick in that area. After that time, her family stayed away from picking wild plants to eat. My dad, however, loved to hunt deer and we fished (mostly catfish) at Grandpa's pond on the farm.

And my husband's family also has another saying in their family about eating -- "chickie fly high, no good eat." A wandering gypsy, tramping through their part of the Ozarks, in his broken English, told them that one must be careful about what wild birds one eats -- certain flying birds were not edible -- one had made him sick! 😛

More to Read:
Cookbooks
His Relatives' Recipes

Written by Dolores J. Rush.

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Mom Quotes, Daddy-isms, and Nursery Rhymes

HER

Ever catch yourself doing this when you had a kid underfoot and (s)he was getting on that LAST NERVE ...



Things you said to yourself that you would never, ever say to your kids when you had them and then... you clap your hand over your mouth when you realize you just did! 😮


👦👧💖 👨👩

I was thinking of the things my dad used to say today. He was an air conditioning and heating serviceman and a trustee at church. He took care of all our church’s air-conditioning, heating and some of the plumbing and I remember that he told me “to leave a place better than I found it!” 

Dad always said his two favorite pies were "hot and cold!" His favorite cake was applesauce cake made with black walnuts. And it was especially yummy with cream cheese frosting! 

I remember playing these games as a child: Basketball; Dodge ball; Hide & Seek; Hide the Thimble; Hopscotch; Hot Potato; Hula Hoop;  Jump Rope, Kickball; Mother, May I;  Red Rover; Relay Games; Simon Says; Softball; Tag; and Who Got the Cookie from the Cookie Jar? 

My Kansas grandmother taught all her grandkids how to play "Hide the Thimble." The more the merrier in this case. She said her mother taught her how to play it.  Grandma would hide the thimble first or she would choose someone to be "It" and then all the other players had to leave the room. Grandma or one of the aunties or uncles or sometimes the oldest child stood guard at the door so there was no cheating by peeking. "It" hid the thimble in plain sight somewhere in the room. The thimble could not be hidden behind or under anything, but could be seen from any corner of the room and often "It" had to check before sitting down. When "It" called okay, then all the players came back into the room and stood in the middle of the room. The first person who spies the thimble, is the next hider. If "It" hides the thimble so well that nobody can find it, then "It" may give clues like, "You are warm" meaning someone is close to the thimble and if they are next to it and still don't see it, then they are hot. If they move away, then they are getting cold. The game is a lot of fun and I taught the game to my in-law's family. It's surprising how well a tiny silver object can blend in with the contents of a room. 

I wasn't very good at active outside games, but I did try. I surprised myself though once and everyone else I think, when I won a game of 2-ball dodgeball in sixth grade. My first bicycle was a red boys bike and the first time I crashed it on a girlfriend's hilly front yard, I couldn't sit down for a week. smile! We had a heavy metal pipe swing set in the back yard. Dad set the feet down in concrete, so we could swing high on it without it falling over. Mom bought a commercial metal slide at a rummage sale at the New Santa Fe Christian Church and it stood next to the swing set. Later, mom bought us kids a metal fort. It was two stories tall -- we could climb up to the top story by ladder and slide down a pole in one corner like a fireman. 

I collected dolls and had a Barbie doll. She was a single lady -- she never kept company with Ken at my house. My sisters and I sometimes made our Barbie doll clothes out of the tops of stray socks or stitched clothing for them by hand from bits and pieces of rescued fabric that my mother tossed out after sewing up our clothing.  

Saturday mornings were for watching cartoons. I remember when the kids in school told me about Batman. I was so excited about it and asked my mother if I could watch it. Then I missed the whole show when I fell asleep on the sofa waiting for it to come on. We didn't have a remote control; we had to get up to change the channel on our black and white TV. We didn't get a colored TV or Atari until I was in high school. Our local PBS channel was on the "U" section of our dial. I remember watching Captain Kangaroo. I loved his side-kick, Mr. Green Jeans. Once my sister was on television when she and her classmates visited our local television channel to pay a visit to Torey Time, our local children's programming. 

Mom used to say a version of this poem:

Spring has sprung, the grass has riz I wonder where the birdies is The birdies are up high in the sky Dropping whitewash down in my eye I am good, I don’t cry I’m just glad that cows don’t fly.

She also used to tell us about the peanut and the choo-choo train whose heart was all a flutter, then along came the choo-choo train and he became peanut butter!

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HIS family used to quote favorite rhymes for fun. Ishmael used to say these:

"Entry, ventry, cutry, corn
Apple seed and apple thorn.
Wire, brier, limber lock,
Three geese in a flock.
One flew east, one flew west,
And one flew over the cuckoo's nest.
All the way out, you old dirty cloud,
Never saw a pretty girl, but what I liked her some."
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"Let's go to bed," said Sleepyhead.
"Oh no," said Slow, "let's eat a bite before we go."
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This one was accompanied by hand motions as a finger game. It never fails to amaze the little ones!

Two blackbirds
Sitting on a log,
One named "Jack"
And one named "Jill."
Fly away, Jack,
Fly away, Jill,
Come back, Jack,
Come back, Jill.
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Marie's dad, Wm. Thornton, used to say this one:

"Penny-nip, clip, clap, clam, roady-hoady, brush-him-over, Peter Pan-Dan, sigh-all-lo-dy."


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David said he can remember his dad saying that if he ever got into trouble at school, expect trouble at home.  How many of your parents said the same? Mine did!

David said a favorite game to play at his grandparents over their farmhouse was "Andy, Andy, Over." The object of the game involved throwing a ball over their house's roof to players on the opposite side to capture and add in team members. He said the two teams were usually divided equally, in this instance, I'll call them the A Team and Team B. Anybody could pitch the ball over from the starting team, say from Team B and as they threw it, they yelled "Andy, Andy, Over" giving warning to A Team that a ball was in the air. David said the trick was to just get it over the peak of the roof to roll or bounce a couple of times before dropping down into a catcher's hands.  The catcher and everyone else on the A Team then ran around to the other side of the house to try to tag anybody they could for their team.  The throwing team couldn't run until they saw people coming around the corner of the house and they could be coming from either side, so you had be alert. Also, Team B didn't know who held the ball, so they had to run away from everyone on the A Team. My husband said the game generally lasted about a half hour or so or until someone damaged a body part while running or getting bonked over the head with a ball. 

David said this to me tonight -- March winds bring April showers bring May flowers and June Bugs!

Got any mom quotes, daddy-isms, or fun jingles your family used to say? Please share in the comments below. 

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